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Bill Machi rose to the challenge of giving feedback about this blog and after thinking over what he had to say there are two changes on the way.

Change One
Separate out church and state – sorry, just my mischievous sense of humour – I meant to write, “create a dedicated career coaching/consulting site and keep the blog for the personal world view of Mark McClure“.

As most of my career coaching clients have been via word of mouth referral I’d put off building the coaching-specific website.

Change Two
The current tag line at the top of this blog is:

Career Change, Personal Renewal and Mid-Life Professionals

Well, that accurately describes ME but I wonder how appropriate it is for my target market?

Yes, I do have a target market I want to reach via the web (especially this blog) but haven’t done a particularly stellar job of identifying and contacting them so far.

The tag’s subconscious message would appear to be aimed at mid-life professionals (those who have career paths rather than jobs; an oxymoron if ever there was one) – who are thinking about how to change careers and also how to reinvent themselves personally.

The problem I see with that is most of my clients have not been so much interested in career change or personal renewal :-) .

They’re in IT, mostly male (mid 30s and up) and looking for help and advice with workload, time management (always a favourite!), quality of life issues, and dealing with politically charged workplaces.

Yes, some are transitioning out of IT but slowly – unless pushed!
So, I’ve come up with these 3 choices as possible new blog tags:

Mid-Life Career Coaching and Consulting For IT Professionals

Career Strategy and Tactics For Mid-Life IT Professionals

Career Strategy and Tactics for Mid-Life Professionals

What do you think?

Too long, too short, just right?

Prefer the current one?

- Mark McClure

PS – Mon 15 Sept is “Senior Citizens Appreciation Day” in Japan, a national holiday. In celebration I shall cheer 3 graying power walkers on Monday’s early morning run. Lord help me!

Mid-Life Career Change Using Just Five Rules

Aside

When I started this blog last November I knew I wanted many of the posts to not only help people with their own mid-life career transitions – at whatever stage they might be with them…

… but also to weave in a sense of my own coaching philosophy and approach, so that readers and potential clients can get a sense of what I am about.

This approach is captured in this sentence:

You can change your game using just five rules.”

So, sit back and see what you make of 5 previous posts that I believe reveal the essence of “just five rules” – where the game’s career change and the playing field life.

Rule 1: Take Action

There’s a powerful message in Scott Rigsby’s story being expressed by the many brave, sometimes painful and inspirational actions he’s taken over the past few years.

Scott is clearly deeply driven by his faith and the desire to “… let an extraordinary God perform extraordinary things through the life of an ordinary man.” (my paraphrasing).

Watch his video and ponder on those many tens of thousands of steps, strokes and pedals he took on the path to being the world’s first double amputee Hawaiian “Iron Man.”

My favourite quote from Scott (and I am not a practicing Christian in the sense that he is) is clearly a very powerful testament for action in his life:

God, if you’ll open a door for me, I’ll run through it.”

From a coaching perspective this inner desire (my definition) to make a positive difference in one or more lives, starting with his own, goes way beyond whatever transient fame and opportunities may come his way as a result of acting on that very same desire.

Rule 2: Follow A Proven Plan

Visually stunning as this video is, the real message is in the song’s lyrics – so listen carefully to “Strengthen Your Mind.”

Obviously these ski experts didn’t just get up one day, climb in a helicopter and decide to launch themselves down Mt. Eiger with nothing more than skis and a parachute.

Think of the years spent learning and experiencing the craft of skiing and all that entails – and way before parachutes were added to the mix.

Think also of the logistics leading up to this particular mountain descent – weather, safety, equipment, descent path, helicopter, physical fitness to name but a few.

And imagine the double checking on how to optimally complete project Eiger. (Yes, I know they were having an incredible adrenaline rush too!)

Here is where many new to career change coaching think a lot of time will be spent – in planning and preparation. Partly true but also incomplete without involving elements of the other 4 rules – just remind yourself of “proven plans” you’ve followed in your own career and life but without much passion or commitment. Yuck!

Rule 3: Focus On One Thing At A Time

The effects of trampling over rule #3 are (almost) literally observed in people driving themselves to distraction over time and that’s why this personal productivity post makes an appearance.

Not surprisingly, whatever gains I’ve made by multitasking have often been usurped by dear old Parkinson’s law and I’d have been better off ring fencing my key tasks with regular time blocks and saying “to h#ll with the time vampires”.

Rule 4: Let Time Go Lightly

If you haven’t yet read Ken Grimwood’s Replay – do yourself a favour and get hold of a copy pronto!

Although a work of adult science fiction on a time travel theme, this is one of the most life affirming books I’ve ever read on what I consider to be the loving intent inherent within all “creative experience.”

Rule 5: Find Games Worth Playing

“Why? There is no why!”

For someone who, in 1974, perpetrated perhaps the “artistic crime of the century” and 34 years later is on a stage at the Sundance Film festival informing the audience that he married the Twin Towers with his art, and even had those buildings smile – that is some game. Almost beyond belief.

And while career change may seem orders of magnitude less exciting than what Philippe Petit dared to do, the same magic applies. You do it because you want to, and again in Philippe’s words:

See every day as a true challenge – and then you live your life on the tightrope.”

So there you have it – career change coaching using just five rules.

In reality, I don’t coach with these rules in a strict top-down manner – but rather the conversations flow from trust and empathy developed between client and coach over time.

And the rules themselves are more like those “cats’ eyes in the road” so you (and I) can see where we’re going.

- Mark McClure

Your Career Is Your Own and You Form it?

Well….

Is it?

Do you?

These are probably 3 of the most important questions potential career changers can ever ask themselves – especially those who’ve come to coaching already convinced they want the coach to help them make a career change from the <insert expletive> job they presently have…

… and such “conviction” is often not the case.

You see, there’s nothing quite like challenging my clients with questions like these to really help them uncover what they believe about their existing career possibilities. (For many this is often the first time they’ve ever examined such beliefs and possibilities in a trusting and confidential space.)

And I find it interesting to (compassionately) observe their replies and how these may change over time – remembering that my job as a coach is not to “convert” anyone to mine. (Yes, I realize this is not foolproof, even for coaches intellectually aware of “transfer” influences between coach and coachee.)

To help the conversation along I’ll often use the sliding scale approach of “On a scale of 1 to 10…what do you think of the statement – your career is your own and you form it?”

This can sometimes produce just “yes” or “no” answers, which are less useful than a longer response. And in such monosyllabic cases a good coach will dig a little deeper, perhaps by asking the client to guess what they a famous person might say in reply.

In my experience the bedrock of successful career coaching is not just in creating and following through on a step-plan to “reach” the desired and idyllic future goals (a coach’s wet dream lol), but in facing present facts.

And these “facts” as I understand them are best summed up in Byron Katie’s beautiful and empowering words:

“When you argue with reality you lose. But only 100% of the time.”

Byron’s words remind me that so much pain and anguish (again, in my experience) is kept alive by continuing to headbutt our walls of reality.

And this seems to apply right across life’s spectrum of activities – “career” being just one very visible wall.

This Weekend’s Coaching Challenge:

So, if you feel moved, please do this simple 5 minute exercise over the weekend:

Cease arguing with all thoughts about your present career reality. Notice I didn’t say to ignore this reality or pretend it’s something entirely different.

Just begin to watch your thoughts about this present career reality float by as clouds do in a summer sky – neither caring whence they came from nor where they’re going to.

And then ask yourself those 3 questions from the start of the post.
Here they are again:

1- Your Career Is Your Own and You Form it?

2- Is it?

3- Do you?

- Mark McClure

PS – Please feel free to post your “answers” as a comment here.
You can use a fictitious name (but a real email address, which will not be shown.)

PPS- Regarding those clients “convinced” that they must change careers… my (limited) experience so far is that 80% (Pareto again!) want no such thing. In fact, they’ve simply convinced themselves that they’re effectively powerless to create change in their existing career path i.e. the sky is black with thoughts!

Once the gloom has lifted and those thoughts begin to dissipate in the affirming energy of their patiently observing selves, the mood does change. And their possibilities become endless…

Hello World! Thanks For Stopping By – But Why?

Most anyone I know who’s started blogging seems to develop a compulsion to check their visitor stats daily.

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That’s sure been my experience and I must admit to being very curious about not only where my visitors are coming from and how long they stick around – but to why they do so.

What brings people to a blog ostensibly about “Career Change, Personal Renewal And Mid-Life Professionals“?

I’d really like to know.

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