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The 5 Minute Career Mentor - Listening

Here’s the first in an occasional series of relatively short posts written from a mentoring perspective.

In other words, this is knowledge I gained from others and have found useful in my life and career.

1- “The Method Of Polite Conversation”

This technique is really simple and can work well when talking to someone else or in small groups (such as a well-run meeting):

While one person is speaking, the other(s) stay silent.

Try it out first with a friend whom you trust.

Simply both agree to follow the rule and enjoy a relaxing and flowing conversation, bounded by varying periods of silence!

With practice you can become known as a “good listener” and someone who is in tune (empathetic) with the concerns and opinions of colleagues and customers - a powerful attribute worth cultivating in business and personal life.

By the way, developing this skill doesn’t necessarily mean that you agree with the speaker - just that you are very good at listening to what is being said.

2- “The Echo Chamber”

This is a step up from #1 and takes some practice and nerve to pull off.

Here’s the drill:

While listening to the other person speaking, ‘hear’ their words repeating in your head.

This can be your own voice, the speaker’s voice or anyone you like!

The important point is to ‘feel’ the speaker’s words as if you were ’saying’ them inside your head.
Again, you don’t have to agree with what the speaker is saying - just actively listen.

And the point of this technique?

Well, actually there are two main ones:

a- You will be learning to pay attention and if done well, the speaker will surely notice.

b- You are more fully present with the other person, instead of half listening while some part of you is thinking up replies, counter statements etc.

Try it out!

You may both be pleasantly surprised by what is said and heard.

- Mark McClure

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Career Change Coaching MidSummer Madness - 48 Hours Special Offer

Well, here we are almost half way through 2008 - and here also is a recession-beating “mid-summer” career change coaching offer - but only for the next 48 hours.

Why now?

Well, those of you in the corporate world may already be going through mid-year performance reviews.
Good luck. I feel your pain ;-)

But what about your own life and career goals beyond the world of employer and “stakeholder-driven” agreements?

Is anyone taking the time to sit down with you and review what really matters to you and yours over the next few years?

Sometimes a good manager, trusted colleague, friend or family can be that helpful listening ear.

But not always.

Particularly with goals involving career change - where opening up to a manager or mentor is a leap of faith on your part.

For example, will you be seen as “weak” or “disloyal” for discussing your dreams of career change and personal renewal with folks who may have an agenda of their own in these difficult economic times?

That’s where a career change coach like me can help.

You see, I do have an agenda.

A very personal one.

Yours!

So, if you’re open to honestly exploring your career goals and future in a private and confidential environment, then here’s what I’m proposing:

1- Purchase the Goal Creation Maps course. (CD or online)
(If you have a reliable ADSL broadband Internet connection or faster, then the online course should work fine. If you’re not sure, then get the CD version.)

2- Leave a comment to this post that you have bought the course and want to claim a free 45 minutes phone coaching session with me.

(Make sure you use the same contact email address as you did when ordering the course - and don’t worry, email addresses are not published in the blog comments.

Also, if you haven’t left a post here before then it will not be published until I have had a chance to approve it. This keeps the spammers in check. Again, don’t worry. I will see your post and approve it.)

I will then follow up with you to arrange a mutually convenient time for your coaching session.

I’m open to doing the coaching session using Skype or by calling you directly on a landline number (I don’t call mobile phones.)

OK. Sounds good?

Then what are you waiting for!

Take action and get a performance review like no other!

Of course, there is a practical limit to what can be achieved in 45 minutes of coaching - but a lot is possible if you approach it with a determined and realistic outlook.

(And by using the structure provided by the goal creation maps course, we will have something to work with if you complete the course before having the coaching session. My recommendation is that you work through the course before the coaching call.)

- Mark McClure

PS: As my private career coaching starts around $150 per hour, I don’t run these crazy priced offers very often.

PPS: The offer starts Monday 23 June 2008 at 19:00 Hours Japan Time and finishes on Wednesday 25th June 2008 at 19:00 hours Japan time. See here for World time zone conversion chart.

PPPS: !! Yikes, I’m not sure how many ‘Ps’ I can include but what the heck! Final point - the coaching part of this offer is open until 25 September 2008. That gives you 3 months in which to choose a date. The earlier the better.

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Organic Career Growth

Just like career choices, some fruits are grown naturally.

And others aren’t.

natural orange1

Take your pick.

- Mark McClure

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Google Career Coaching Questions

Since Google is well known for being a great place to work and following on from Tuesday’s post on Google TechTalks Coaching , below is my current list of questions about coaching and mentoring within the Big ‘G’.

To get the creative juices flowing I used my trusty copy of MindGenius and generated a simple outline mind map.

Then as I started to think about the keywords on the mind map, I came up with more questions than the map suggests. The imaginative power of mind maps!

Google Career Coaching & Goals

1- Coaches:

1.1 External:
What is the selection process for being chosen as a Google Coach?

1.2 Internal:
Are there internal (fulltime) coaches within Google?

2- Dreams:

2.1 Vision:
- How do Google staffers find the “Dreams” exercise, along with the “small child” discovery suggestions?

- Are coached employees sharing their “Google Dreams” with others as mentioned on the video? (a kind of “dream teamwork”, if you like!)

3- Coaching:

3.1 Group:
- Is there coaching for teams at Google? (If so, how is this delivered?)

3.2 Private:
- Is coaching done on campus (meeting rooms) or via telephone? (and presumably not from the staffer’s cubicle.)
- In what ways does coaching of the ‘Google Dream’ overlap (or intertwine) with personal dreams expressed by the employee?

3.3 Scale:
- What is the ratio of coaches to eligible employees?
*For coaching to have any noticeable impact on personal (and group) performance, there is an element of “critical mass” which is not necessarily achieved by providing only executive or C-level coaching.)

3.4 Employees:
- How do employees become eligible for individual or group coaching?
(In some corporations, coaching is only an executive or director level ‘perk’ and/or may be used as part of an ‘outplacement’ strategy for politely culling unwanted senior staff. Sad but true.)

3.5 Locations:
- In which Google sites are coaches available?
(although phone or Net-based video-conf coaching can be done regardless of location, time zones and other regional factors are important.)

4- Trust:

4.1 HR:
- What is the involvement of Human Resources department in the administration of the career coaching programs?
- In what way is the coaching assessed or monitored to be of benefit to Google and to the employee?

4.2 Confidentiality:
- How private and confidential are the coaching sessions?
(These are 2 of the main benefits in using external coaches - plus there is reduced possibility of a conflict of interest).

5- Mentoring:

5.1 Formalized?:
- Is there a mentoring program and in what ways does it overlap or coexist with coaching?
(Mentors are usually existing employees with knowledge and guidance to share. This is different from coaching, where the coach is helping the client walk their own path - in this case one that is also hopefully in broad alignment with the Google highway.)

5.2 Managers:
- In what ways are managers (and relevant non-managers too) trained (and coached) to be effective mentors?

Well, that’s it for 23:53 hours on a Friday night!

While I don’t expect Google to reveal “competitive advantage” information, I believe there’s a lot of benefit to be gained by sharing yet more reasons why Google is rated to be such an impressive company to work for.

I will post further on this topic when appropriate.

- Mark ‘Do No Evil’ McClure ;-)

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Google TechTalks Coaching

29 minutes into this Google TechTalks Coaching video and the presenter, Michael Beasley, asks:

  • How do you get clear about your Google dream?

That definitely got my attention.

From what I can gather, Michael is a very experienced career coach with a strong academic and corporate background, who has been retained as a coach by Google.

The video is worth watching for anyone currently in the corporate world looking to balance (or more likely, juggle!) their own dreams and goals with those of their employers.

So, while the presentation is titled “Advancing Toward Your Dreams and Goals: Exercise & Practices“, Michael astutely guides the attending Google staffers to consider sharing (as appropriate) their Google dreams (think “vision statement”) and goals with selected coworkers (including management).

In my mind, the “Google Dream” approach is similar to what I posted about corporate personal development plans - but with an emphasis on the personal.

The final 25 minutes see Michael present ideas on how networking with coworkers (and possibly informal mentoring?) can be helpful in both defining and moving forward on (”chicken and egg” in my book!) these dreams.

He also shares the concept of “readiness” for the various stages and manifestations of dreams as they reveal themselves in daily working and personal life. (Michael describes this readiness in action as “Messy” - an apt word in all its connotations from his sculpting hobby.)

WIIFM1: (What’s In It For Me)
If you watch the video, then perhaps you may be able to answer these questions:

1- What age is the child with you?

2- What part of your dream are you now ready for?

WIIFM2:
I’m now intrigued enough about the career coaching (and mentoring) structure at Google to find out some more. So, I will prepare some questions and see if Michael or someone at Google can help answer them. If you have a relevant question you’d like answered then please post it as a comment here by Fri 13 June.

- Mark McClure

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Be Careful What You Wish For - Start Now!

As a Career change and Life coach I get quite a kick from helping people “do more of what you love”.

But, as with many things in life, results can take time and are often different from what was first conceived.

Yet, in my coaching practice I do meet clients who are prepared to honestly assess their present circumstances, guesstimate where they probably want to be, and then proceed to take action.

This is where coaching can act as a focal point for change - by concentrating on, reinforcing and supporting the client’s actions towards desired and meaningful experiences.

All the time recognizing that while some future events and outcomes are visible, predictable and achievable - there may be many that are ‘unseen’ and exist in the class of ‘life happens anyway’.

And that brings me back to this career changer and what he should do.

“What to do”?

After some online research he discovered these amazing urban homestead folks living their dream in Pasadena, California.

From a coaching perspective the actions of the Dervaes family are ‘congruent’ - values, lifestyle and action in alignment.

That alone makes what they’ve done over the years worthy of study and admiration (IMO).
Which is what my client is now doing.

Check out their amazing “Homegrown Revolution - Radical Change Taking Root’ YouTube video. (And look out for the ‘Hand Trowel held aloft’ clip - a personal power statement if ever there was one.)

- Mark McClure

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Perfection Part 2

If you haven’t done so, then please read part 1:
Perfection In Such An Average Day

Well, my average day actually stretched through the weekend and included these 5 simple highlights:

1- Attending a School Choir and Band Concert

2- Going For a Run after 10 days off with a cold

3- Enjoying a couple of Beers at home

4- Late night Reading

5- Listening to my daughter strum her guitar

Fairly straightforward pleasures, right?

What intrigues me is that each are comprised of many average moments, yet add up into something I enjoy and often want to repeat.

For example, take “going for a run”.

In successive moments I am:

- Choosing to run Sunday morning and skip breakfast (as the weather’s lovely at 9am but would be too hot a few hours later)

- Picking my running kit out.

- Doing the Yoga stretch routine I use as warm-up.

- Walking through the park to get to the part I can run on.

- Feeling the sun, the wind and the ground on my feet as I move from a shuffle to a jog to a wee bit faster running.

In fact, I could probably write out another 10 ‘moments of perfection’ that occurred to me over the time I spent “going for a run”.

And ditto for the other 4 highlights I noted above.

But I’ll spare you that - except to say “Get to work on finding your own perfection in an average day”.

Although such physical moments are temporary, there need be no shortage throughout life. ( Think of it as a “supply and demand” issue!)

- Mark McClure

PS: Many thanks to Prof Morrie “A Teacher to the Last” Schwartz and author Mitch Albom for their powerful and life affirming book,”Tuesdays With Morrie”. Highly recommended.

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Perfection In Such An Average Day - Part 1 of 2

There’s an old, somewhat worn out personal development / goal setting exercise that usually goes something like this:

“Imagine you’ve just six months to live.

What would you do?
Where would you go?

Who would you spend time with?”

I (and some of my coaching clients) invariably have trouble imagining our own future demise - it’s been no easy matter to get anything out of this exercise.

Perhaps that’s why I’ve been so taken with how Mitch Albom approached the topic, in his 1997 best seller, Tuesdays With Morrie.

On Mitch’s thirteenth Tuesday visit with the ailing Professor Morrie, he’s suddenly struck by the fact that he last saw Morrie standing up over 16 years ago.

And that leads to a rather beautiful and impromptu question to his former professor:

“What if you had one day perfectly happy, I asked?
What would you do?”

(page 175, Tuesdays with Morrie)

Want to know what Morrie replied?

Then listen to Tape 1 of Mitch’s edited recording for Morrie’s Perfect Day.
(It’s a 5 minute audio clip - listen online or download).

Please stop and do that now.

So, having heard Morrie’s voice (or read his words), does the title of this post ring any bells for you?

Sure did for me!

Wishing you much perfection in this average weekend ;-)

All being well, I’ll post part 2 on Tuesday.

- Mark McClure

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Blog Comments Made Easier

Blog Comment Posting Update:

I’ve been manually approving all comments to this blog and while it makes sure that the sp#m is not published, the downside is the delay in publishing legitimate comments (as I typically only check once a day.)

Your comments will now be automatically published on this blog as long as you have:

  • at least 1 comment approved and published (this helps discourage the drive-by spammers).
  • no more than 2 web links (url) within any 1 comment.

Naturally, the aim is to encourage more comment and dialogue around successful career change, coaching and mentoring with my blog readers.

That being said, please note I reserve the right to remove and delete comments at my sole discretion. (e.g. comments containing profanity or what I or my legal advisers consider to be inappropriate.)

I’m currently using Akismet to catch most of the spam - so let’s see how this new policy goes.

(If you have any problem posting comments you can leave a message via my contact page: http://markmccluretoday.com/contact )

- Mark McClure

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My Coaching BlogRoll

I’ve just added a “coaching blogroll” to this site - see the right hand column.

As time goes by I’ll expand the list to include other career coaching and personal development blogs I like to follow.

But to start with, I’m including 2 great coaches I’m proud to know in person.

Jacinta Hin was my first career change coach a few years ago and is highly recommended. Multilingual, patient yet firmly persistent, she is a coaching rock of strength to have on anyone’s team.

I’d reason to be grateful to her a while back as I was in a bit of a funk about some career related issues, and she helped me gain some much needed fresh perspective on what I was reading as a “FUBAR” event.

Jacinta’s blog is: http://jacintahin.com/

Charles Burke is a mentoring friend who I’ve met just once in person - but we chat monthly via Skype.

This guy doesn’t believe in sitting on his hands when it comes to making career changes and is also a prolific writer and exceptional coach.

He’s recently moved with his wife from Japan to Northern Thailand and is living life to the fullest.

Charles has his blog at: http://bullseye-living.com/

Enjoy!

PS - My Coaching blogroll is NOT a list of recommended coaches and resources, per se.
It’s more of a personal work in progress as I come across people interested enough in career change and personal growth to write about them online.

I have no control over the content of any blogs and sites linked to from this blog (unless I own them!) Caveat emptor.

-Mark McClure

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